My life is better because of my brother, Floyd

I was a single mom with 3 daughters, working full-time, and completing my bachelor’s degree at night school in Anchorage.

My brother, Floyd was always willing to stay with me and help me with anything I needed.

One of the only reasons I was able to work as the youngest ever appointed statewide lobbyist for Alaska Native Health issues (commuting between Anchorage and Washington DC several times each month for 5 years) is because of my brother, Floyd.

He helped me raise my girls. He sacrificed a lot for the betterment of my children’s lives and mine. 

Even as recent as last spring, I had given up and wanted to quit my Master of Business Administration program.  

I told my brother Floyd that I was going to quit.  He doesn’t mince words and at the same time he doesn’t talk extensively; which is a generational trait throughout my family.  Honestly, I do not remember his exact words, but because he did not support my decision to quit, I continued.  He is the person I confided in when I was feeling depleted and because of him, I graduated September 2020 with my MBA from the Jack Welch Management Institute.  

His opinion is often what I seek and I trust his advice.  I wouldn’t ever want to disappoint him or fall short of anything I pursue, in part, because of the personal sacrifices he has made for me to pursue my dreams throughout our lives.  

Being the pillar of strength that people rely on sometimes makes it difficult for a caretaker to take time for their own self-care and/or finding ways to blow off steam and reduce stress.  I believe that is where he has found himself at times, but never to harm himself or anyone else, ever.  He just is not a hurtful person.  He is the most generous person.

And I know, because as his older sister, I can be a jerk to him sometimes.  He shows nothing but patience and respect for me, even when I try to bait him into arguing with me.  He just does not take that kind of bait.  

I share these experiences with you, because I want you to know that he is a foundational necessity of strength in our family.  He has spent his entire life devoted to us as his family, he is helpful and loving.

He is the best brother anyone could ever hope for; not to mention the best uncle my girls could have ever hoped for.

Published by Trudy Sobocienski

My blog, "Beyond Leadership" is a creative place to share my personal feelings and thoughts while working in leadership roles for a variety of Alaska Native organizations, both for and not-for profit entities. An incredible leader and mentor of mine once asked while we were in Washington, DC, "What happened to you between the ages of 7-10 that motivated you to serve in a native leadership capacity". I was struck by that poignant thought and as such, include actual entries from my mother and my diaries beginning in the early 1970's. I enjoy sharing these excerpts because it captures the parallels she and I were experiencing throughout life, from two separate worldviews. Hers as a young mother of four and mine as her eldest child. I have never came across a book on leadership that lays bare a leaders personal feelings, thoughts, hopes, fears and dreams they were experiencing. So for me, my goal is two-fold: 1. Share the incredible life my parents created for my siblings and I growing up in remote Alaska; and, 2) Sharing my humanity, through my personal diaries and journals, while serving as the youngest-ever President/CEO for the Alaska Native Health Board. There are passages that will include significant policy issues I was working on throughout my career and travels. There are many more passages that do not. I cannot speak for my mom's passages, because I am reading them as I share them here, with you; with her permission of course.

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