I was a single mom with 3 daughters, working full-time, and completing my bachelor’s degree at night school in Anchorage.
My brother, Floyd was always willing to stay with me and help me with anything I needed.
One of the only reasons I was able to work as the youngest ever appointed statewide lobbyist for Alaska Native Health issues (commuting between Anchorage and Washington DC several times each month for 5 years) is because of my brother, Floyd.
He helped me raise my girls. He sacrificed a lot for the betterment of my children’s lives and mine.
Even as recent as last spring, I had given up and wanted to quit my Master of Business Administration program.
I told my brother Floyd that I was going to quit. He doesn’t mince words and at the same time he doesn’t talk extensively; which is a generational trait throughout my family. Honestly, I do not remember his exact words, but because he did not support my decision to quit, I continued. He is the person I confided in when I was feeling depleted and because of him, I graduated September 2020 with my MBA from the Jack Welch Management Institute.
His opinion is often what I seek and I trust his advice. I wouldn’t ever want to disappoint him or fall short of anything I pursue, in part, because of the personal sacrifices he has made for me to pursue my dreams throughout our lives.
Being the pillar of strength that people rely on sometimes makes it difficult for a caretaker to take time for their own self-care and/or finding ways to blow off steam and reduce stress. I believe that is where he has found himself at times, but never to harm himself or anyone else, ever. He just is not a hurtful person. He is the most generous person.
And I know, because as his older sister, I can be a jerk to him sometimes. He shows nothing but patience and respect for me, even when I try to bait him into arguing with me. He just does not take that kind of bait.
I share these experiences with you, because I want you to know that he is a foundational necessity of strength in our family. He has spent his entire life devoted to us as his family, he is helpful and loving.
He is the best brother anyone could ever hope for; not to mention the best uncle my girls could have ever hoped for.