Words Perpetuate, Create Social Behavior

…within individual cultural groups. 

Words can also create an inadvertent definition of accepted norms or beliefs held by a cultural group.

In turn, that message (although inadvertently) is then communicated to others – the outsiders.

Thereafter, not due to any fault of the outsiders – they now believe an inaccurate perception of a population.

“Words are containers for power” — Joyce Meyer

Words to self-marginalize, such as “empower” and “too” push my buttons.

A lawyer told me awhile back, “You have the power, so use it”. We were looking to him to “empower” us in our decision-making. That was a defining moment in my life.

A prominent lady commented, “We too, are America”. I wrongfully jumped down her throat about her statement.

The undertone of her comment really pissed me off.

To me, it communicates wearing misery as a badge of honor. Or an un-won civil war mentality.

Now those wars have already been fought and won.

The biggest risk in business when working in Mergers and Acquisitions, is the period of time post-acquisition.

Whether or not an acquisition makes sense on financial reports or every other model of due diligence, becomes irrelevant if the merging of two distinct corporate cultures fail (or refuse to merge).

This is where I believe we are at in American history.

We all are responsible in doing our part to make sure that the ultimate merger does not fail.

We need to pivot from fighting, pivot from misery, pivot from civil war – we won – all of America has won.

We have reached this pivotal milestone. The acquisition has been transacted.

I, for one, do not want to go down in history as an Indigenous Woman that failed when the baton was handed to me in this relay race we call life.

Words. Words will define what we do in this “post-acquisition” moment in time.

Published by Trudy Sobocienski

My blog, "Beyond Leadership" is a creative place to share my personal feelings and thoughts while working in leadership roles for a variety of Alaska Native organizations, both for and not-for profit entities. An incredible leader and mentor of mine once asked while we were in Washington, DC, "What happened to you between the ages of 7-10 that motivated you to serve in a native leadership capacity". I was struck by that poignant thought and as such, include actual entries from my mother and my diaries beginning in the early 1970's. I enjoy sharing these excerpts because it captures the parallels she and I were experiencing throughout life, from two separate worldviews. Hers as a young mother of four and mine as her eldest child. I have never came across a book on leadership that lays bare a leaders personal feelings, thoughts, hopes, fears and dreams they were experiencing. So for me, my goal is two-fold: 1. Share the incredible life my parents created for my siblings and I growing up in remote Alaska; and, 2) Sharing my humanity, through my personal diaries and journals, while serving as the youngest-ever President/CEO for the Alaska Native Health Board. There are passages that will include significant policy issues I was working on throughout my career and travels. There are many more passages that do not. I cannot speak for my mom's passages, because I am reading them as I share them here, with you; with her permission of course.

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